(After each question, you might want to pause and reflect.)
Are you open to accepting your current situation? Are you open to your physical world…and/or are you open to your attitude and your feelings about the physical world?
Understanding a situation doesn’t condone or support aggressive, negative behavior; perhaps it allows for insight and compassion to work their magic. Understanding could also be realizing common ground. Isn’t it more likely that the root cause of a situation becomes obvious when you allow the creative part of yourself to come forward? There may be several things to bring into awareness.
- Do you try to force a situation to be what it isn’t? Will you refuse to accept a situation as it is?
- Do you believe that accepting the situation takes away your power to control it? One of the most common mistakes in refusing to accept a situation as it is – is to think that accepting a situation is defeatist. Where just the opposite appears more true. When one moves from reacting unconsciously to becoming conscious, don’t both appearances and opportunities change?
- Do you try to make yourself feel something that you don’t? When you do not try to force yourself to feel something that you don’t and acknowledge your feelings instead, do you welcome the reflective part of your nature? Is it the reflective part of your nature that can study a situation to realize simple truths? If those truths remain unnoticed can they become major points of contention…especially our feelings?
- Do you blame yourself or others for issues? What is the purpose of focusing on blame?
If you act out in a manner that is less evolved than you know you are capable of, do you feel the pressure the can come from unconscious blame, regret and shame?
If you have acted out with unconscious behavior, is more unconscious behavior going to correct the problem? If two wrongs don’t make a right, what is right action in this situation? Can something that is from a vulnerable perspective appear to be weakness, but from a balanced perspective is in fact, strength?
- Can you think of a situation where you took the challenge and allowed yourself to be vulnerable?
- What does vulnerability provide that defensiveness does not?